For a long time I believed I was stuck with the choices I made. No matter how bad the mistreatment I just couldn’t leave the person I’d promised to stay with. Yet one day I realized that remaining loyal to someone who thought it was okay to hurt the one they said they loved was actually allowing myself to be abused. I did not create a better life by thinking I was stuck. In fact, the resentment and anger I felt was growing bigger with each passing day. That is when I chose to let go, to leave, to release us both from the constant arguments, blame, and disappointment.

You are not stuck with the decisions you make. You are stuck with the responsibility to be honest with yourself about the reality of your current situation. You also are stuck with an obligation to yourself to learn as much as you can from the choices you’ve made that you now wish were different.

You are not stuck to any situation where mistreatment or abuse is happening. No, it is not easy to make a change. But thinking you are stuck with the choices you make is a guarantee that things will indeed stay the same.