The foundation of all successful relationships is trust.  Being able to depend on those we care about provides a sense of security and safety.  We can’t trust someone who says one thing and does another.

I remember when my mom was smoking she always said, “Do as I say, not as I do.” The problem with that line of thinking is that we learn how to behave by watching others.  People may think their words are what influences us. The truth is our actions are what teach acceptable behavior.

An important thing to remember about establishing trust in relationship is words are cheap.  We can say whatever we want but our actions must align with our words.  If what we say and our actions don’t align then it is lying.

Another thing to keep in mind is that non-verbal communication is almost 93% of all our communication.  So while we may say one thing with our words, our body will always tell the truth.  People can read our body language.  If we are lying they will feel it.

Love yourself by making sure your words and actions line up.  You will respect and trust yourself and other people will respect and trust you too.