Over the course of my 57 years of life I did many things I am not proud of. For a long time I was miserable, focused on how I could somehow magically go back and undo the hurt and pain I caused myself and others. One day I realized it was not possible because what was done was done. With that aha my heart woke up and I decided that if I could not heal those people and situations I hurt then I would concentrate on doing my very best not to hurt anyone or anything again, including me.  Each day I am getting a little better.

While we cannot change our negative behavior of the past we certainly have the power to remain strong in the promise we make to ourselves to be our best in the present moment. Being in charge of our thoughts, words, and actions to create our best life stops the mind voices of regret that often consume us. Soon we are no longer haunted by “I should have behaved differently” and are filled with new memories of how we are behaving as our best now. This is the power we have to put as much distance between the unthinking old us and the thoughtful and caring person we are creating today.